That being said, I'm convinced having someone credible give you credit sets you up for success in two ways: it gets people in the receiving mode to give you a chance and hear what you can teach them, and it gets you in the mindset that you can, and now must, deliver on that promise. I'll talk about each of these effects separately and then how they combine, but first, some examples and stories.
The shortest and most positively jarring interview I've ever had was with the Director of Finance at Henkel when I had applied to a Demand Manager job, a natural promotion from my Supply Planner role at the time. I didn't know him well, yet, so not only did I have no idea what to expect from him as a person, I wasn't sure what a finance guy would ask a supply chain person anyways. When I walked in, he said very abruptly, "I just have one question. Do you want the job?" His directness puzzled me momentarily, I thought I was being set up. I replied in the affirmative, and then stumbled through answering a slightly more "normal" question of why I wanted the job. He cut me off, saying, "Honestly, I just want to know that this is the job you want. If it is, you're a shoe-in. I've read your resume and heard about all of your accomplishments, you'll knock the socks off this position. And if, for some reason, he doesn't hire you, he'd be crazy to do so, but I would snatch you up." I reaffirmed that I wanted the job and thanked him for the words of confidence. "Don't thank me," he said, "thank yourself! You did the work. I'm just observing." The interview ended after that, and I walked out with my head spinning.
Years later that conversation still makes me wonder if I'd be any good at finance, and if I'd like it, because it was something I had never even remotely considered, but he seemed to think I'd be an asset to his team. What's more, when I got the Demand job, I got the opportunity to see him in action and work with him, and he worked in a way that made me think finance was way sexier and more interesting than I had thought. Far from being nerdy number crunching and moving dollars around on a spreadsheet to make the corporate checkbook balance, he used his dollar-tinted glasses to lead us through challenging and productive debates to better understand risk, opportunity and how to improve on both.
The point of the story, though, was the fact that someone else, probably the hiring manager, had already talked me up so much that the finance guy saw no need to grill me or put me through the usual line of questioning for an interview. What's more, he expressed so much confidence in me, I contemplated what it might be like to work for him. I mean, if he had that much impact on me in 5 minutes, what could I do with his guidance for a year or more of 40+ hour work weeks? And honestly, the manager I did go to work for in that position, Brian, turned out to be the best manager I'd ever had, and to this day I still consider him the best manager I've ever had. Sadly, our time was cut short by the relocation, and I truly see it as a tragedy, because I think I had a ton more to learn from him, too. I could have grown and found my stride under Brian's leadership.
I loved my job at Henkel, until I didn't. Having come from the worst job in my career and worst workplace, Honeywell, I saw Henkel as a place where the grass was really greener, and that impression lasted for three years and two jobs. When Henkel moved it's headquarters and about 30% of it's employees from sunny Arizona to miserable Connecticut, myself included, much more changed than just geography and weather. I was done, and it was terribly sad because I previously had thought I might spend the rest of my career with Henkel.
We set our sights on Florida and Dallas as our #1 and #2 preferred locations, and I started job hunting. In an only-loosely-related message exchange on LinkedIn, I learned of an opportunity in Panama City, Florida in my former industry of aerospace. The person referring me, Mike, was a former Honeyweller (one of the few good ones) whom I had impressed early in my career, and was now the VP of Supply Chain for one of Honeywell's biggest suppliers, GKN, a company I knew well. If I got the job, I would be dotted-line reporting into him. Since I liked Mike, I was cautiously optimistic, the caution coming from my experience of aerospace as being an "old boys club" and a bit "dog eat dog."
Mike being a VP likely fast-tracked my resume through the process, based on how quickly I was getting calls and interview invitations. I joked with Jaiman about how, when your VP says, "This is the right person," HR busts a move to get that person. And in this case, I was that person. I suspect Mike also talked me up to the hiring manager.
My direct boss in the role was also a former Honeyweller. He, however, was not "one of the good ones" in my book. To be fair, I had never directly worked with Preston at Honeywell, but his reputation for being a monster was enough for me to know I wouldn't want to. I took the interview request and flew down to Panama City to meet with Mike and Preston and others. I won't bore you with all the details here, but relevant here is that Preston proactively admitted he had been a jerk and shared that he had changed his ways, which was quite encouraging. In the end, I had two great job offers, a very safe one in Dallas, and a terrifying one in Florida, and I took the job in Florida, consistent with my pattern of never choosing the easy route in anything.
What happened next is the point of this story. Preston presented me to the small leadership team at the time as if I was a diamond in the rough, they were all lucky to have me, and I'd be the informal head of the site. He even gave me the nickname of "Goddess Athena, Queen of All She Surveys." The nickname became a running joke, and when we made slides with our pictures on the top right to indicate who was presenting, my picture was replaced by an artist's rendering of Athena, and the leadership team all knew what that meant. Each time we hired subsequent members of the leadership team, Preston would have me interview the candidates and would tell them why my opinion was so important. So the existing leadership team, and everyone brought on board, was under the impression I ruled the proverbial kingdom.
Honestly, I thought the Athena joke was funny, but I didn't give it much thought otherwise, and didn't let it go to my head. I thought I knew better than that. Surely when things get tough, supply chain would get the shaft, as it always had previously in my career, and the Supply Chain Manager (me) would be in the hot seat and blamed for everything. I knew the position was a stretch for me anyways, so I focused on the work. What I was also doing, perhaps semi-consciously, was trying to prove Preston right, to live up to the hype.
So while I was trying to get things in place and live up to my reputation, I was unaware of the respect I was commanding by my peers and even superiors. Then one day, it smacked me in the face (in a good way, but equally as astounding). We were in a leadership team meeting without Preston, and I don't even remember what the concern was that we were debating, but suddenly all heads turned my way without me even saying anything, and I realized the team was looking for me to guide us out of whatever jam we were in. And that wasn't the last time. After a number of similar occurrences, I mentioned it to Preston during one of our private conversations and he expressed that he wasn't surprised, I have the characteristics that make me a great leader, regardless of my place in the org structure. Even at this junture, where he could have pointed out his part in gaining respect for me, he made it all about me, boosting my confidence and giving me a higher bar to aim for.
It happened so regularly that I found I grew into it and flourished. I found my stride as a leader, not just of my own little function, but of the whole site. I think the phrase "fake it til you make it" sounds like something deceptive, but I felt like I did that genuinely. I didn't know what I was doing, but I knew the next steps I needed to take, I knew the principles I needed to guide me, and I worked through it until it came natural and I had "arrived."
Lessons
I'll again state here that having a positive reputation preceding you only goes so far. I actually have seen examples where this didn't work for other people because they couldn't back it up or live up to the praise. This happened in Florida multiple times, and I found myself in coaching mode with people, even going so far as coaching them on being effective in the areas in which they were supposed to be experts. So, I will caution against using this to justify or attempt to cover over a bad hiring decision, for example. If the person plainly doesn't have what it takes, you can't uptalk them into suddenly being high performers. In fact, doing so may reflect poorly on your judge of character and general decision making. To paraphrase Shakespeare, a weed by any other name is still a weed. If you ever find yourself in the awkward position of getting high praise that reaches so far beyond your competency level, here's what I would recommend. Don't call the leader out in front of everyone, and don't refute the praise or try to add qualifiers on it. Instead, have a private conversation with the leader as soon as possible, thank them for the high praise and explain that you lack the confidence they put in you. Next, be specific with what you feel you're lacking, and in the same breath, ask for advice on how to rapidly get up to speed on those areas. If you tell the leader that you're terrible at everything they just praised you for and you have no idea what you're doing, the conversation will likely not be a good one. But if you share very specific areas of concern, and ask how you can immediately repair the gap, they will see that you have their back, and will (hopefully) appreciate the honesty and willingness to learn how to execute whatever they just proclaimed about you publicly.
Alright, so let's presume now that you are a respected leader and have a high performer or potentially high performer that you're bringing into a group or a project, or asking them to initiate something. As a respected leader, you can help smooth the introductions and set up for success both the high performer and the team as a whole, by describing the strengths of the person which will be applicable and beneficial. For example, I've introduced an employee to a new consultant by saying, "He's the mastermind behind this tool, and is intimately familiar with the challenges and tactics needed to move the needle." I could have said, "He connected the files and added some features, and has worked with the team to troubleshoot." Both statements are true without leaving anything out, yet the former statement imbues confidence while the latter diminishes the accomplishments and competence of the individual. The consultant was in need of an expert, and he trusted me but wasn't sure if he could trust this individual whom he didn't yet know. I knew the individual would do a great job answering the consultant's questions, likely better than I could, so I needed to give the consultant confidence to seek him out.
We can also use this uptalk method to imbue confidence on the individual. I work with some absolutely brilliant people, keen observers and analytical, solution-oriented thinkers. I'd like to count myself among them, but I know as a leader, I can't be the expert in everything, and I can't be the only expert on anything, otherwise everything will be on my plate and we'll only move as fast as I can move. Instead, I need to encourage my team members and peers to be the expert and the leader that we need.
However, while many of them have the competence, some of them lack the confidence. So I'll attempt to get some of my confidence to rub off on them. I'll set them up with expectations, such as, "I expect you are going to learn so much more about this topic than I could ever learn, and you'll become our site's go-to expert." Or, "You have the buy-in from senior leadership on this, so the people you'll be working with have been assigned by their managers. We need you to now wrangle them in, set expectations, and get them all moving in the right direction." In either case, I will likely actually keep my finger on the pulse of the project and make sure it continues running smoothly, or help remove barriers as they start to crop up, but I want the employee to feel compelled and capable of doing it without me.
I will also allow for minor failure to let the employee learn and adjust to the failure. Counterintuitively, letting small failures occur also helps boost confidence because great people who are anxious about a role or project need to know they will be safe even if they fail, as long as they take corrective measures. Obviously, if the project is clearly headed for catastrophic failure, I'll step in and provide additional guidance or resources, or redirect if needed. But minor failures are great ways for future leaders to learn, build respect and trustworthiness, and shows to me as their leader how they handle issues. I learned of a specific way to uptalk in a book I read, and I've used it successfully in encouraging a team member to make a decision using their best judgement. The phrase is, "I give you 51% of the vote." Meaning, I can weigh in with my point of view when asked, but the employee gets to make the final call.
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